aaaand nothing, i can't help but feel I've tried everything (though i haven't mentioned it all to keep this somewhat short). so long story short after going on a crazy misguided quest trying to fix load order, i reinstalled NMC's texture and also got 4gb New Vegas. i went in and almost every texture was black, it looked similar to this
then came the time when i went to the prospectors saloon after getting sunny smiles' camping quest. everything rand smoothly for a while with my new character, and i even noticed a lot of NMC's textures coming to life in places i hadn't seen them before.
So basically i installed the non nude type 3 body replacer and armors, however the textures didn't wrap around the meshes well, so i eventually figured out that i needed archiveinvalidation, so i got archiveinvalidation invalidated.